I am new to the forum-so happy I found this site. Married for 17 years and we have not had sex in a year. I want it every day. I think about it all the time. It was stale before this dry year. I am miserable. I don't know what to do. I have tried addressing it so many ways-counseling, ED talk, etc. A few years ago I was bitchy about it. I know I was wrong. Now I am just sad. Sad for us and I am lonely. I have tried giving him reading materials quietly. I have tried to boost him up in our marriage, as the leader. I've told him how I feel-but I am done with that.
We don't even talk about it any more. I remember very clearly the last time we had sex. He came very quickly and then I just kept waiting for some more time to spend on me and he just said he was too tired. I was humiliated. I doubt he even remembers.
I feel so unwanted by him. I get attention from other men, I doubt he notices. I don't really know how I "rate" at 40 ;) I'm pretty fit-I crossfit, I run about 15 half marathons a year-there really isn't anything more physical I can become. I do try to keep myself attractive-maybe he just isn't attracted to me...at all.
I love my husband very much. We have 3 kids and are busy...but not too busy that we can't work it out. I am about to lose hope.
Any advice? Has anyone been in this situation and had success?